If you're anything like me, you probably think, pretty regularly, "I am such a moron."
Now, you're probably not actually a moron, and you almost certainly know that you're not actually a moron, but life is weird and difficult and forces us to make choices and most of those choices are completely unremarkable and cause us no ill effects, but when even a small choice turns out to be a small mistake, we think, "I am such a moron."
In the best of cases, we think this with a laugh and it is healthy.
But in the not-so-best of cases, we think it and mean it, and in those cases it's a very dangerous thing to think.
There are two reasons why it's so dangerous.
First, our brains are self-reinforcing mechanisms. Habits of thought strengthen neuronal connections in the brain and create the patterns that are our memories and that guide our outlook on life. The more often we think of ourselves negatively, the stronger the negative connections become, and the more quickly our brains jump to those patterns when we receive a negative stimulus. This is the biomechanism of depression, and it's why depressive people can go into a tailspin at even the tiniest problem. Their brains have practiced negativity so thoroughly that the response is automatic.
The second danger is that even if we're not prone to depression, we will start to use "I am such a moron" as an excuse. It will become a shield against the need to improve ourselves. And really, even if you're not a moron (in fact, especially if you're not a moron), you need to improve yourself.
Not because it is bad to be flawed, but because it is so good and so empowering to conquer your flaws.
Own your mistakes. Forgive yourself for them. Take them in and build a better you with them.
You're definitely not a moron, and I believe in you.
Thank you, goddess of love, for self-forgiveness, and for friends who help us to practice it.